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The Longest Trip Home

April 28, 2010

I just finished reading The Longest Trip Home: A Memoir by John Grogan (of Marley & Me fame), in which Grogan recounts his own personal journey from warmth and laughter to estrangement and awkwardness between himself and his parents.  Grogan was raised in a staunchly Roman Catholic home which provided a safe and joyful environment for his own upbringing, and yet ultimately became a reality he found to be irreconcilable with the world he found himself living in. This book had me laughing out loud by myself regularly and ultimately brought me to weep tears of sorrow and joy in the end.

Ultimately it is a story about honesty, owning up to who we really are, and the pain that is inevitably a part of accepting the distance that comes when a family finally encounters the truth.  We are all so used to playing roles in our families and wanting our parents to believe that we are what they want us to be, but a family (and each individual that composes it) must ultimately choose if they want to pay the high price of being honest with each other about convictions, lifestyle, and meaning.  If a family chooses to forgo the cost the family remains intact as a mere shell, an empty vessel that once bore so much hope, but now is simply a relic filled with memories but not real people.  If they choose honesty they choose pain, distance, and a long and arduous  journey of coming to terms with each other as they really are.

In the end I wept because I am only now beginning to understand the high cost of honesty.

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  1. April 28, 2010 8:01 pm

    i love you. i guess i never realized how hard honesty is. i respect you and love you as you pursue true honesty.

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